In my life right now, I'm struggling with that. A central character in my life is proposing to sell her house and move to Egypt with her three year old daughter.
And my ego (along with those of all her family) is strongly resisting it. And while I admit that some of that comes from my selfish desire for her to remain in Ireland where I can see her regularly, it's mostly worry and fear for her wellbeing, and the wellbeing of her young child.
Oh, my ego could provide you with a very long list of all the reasons why this plan is misguided and doomed to failure. And your ego would be nodding along in agreement – of that I have absolutely no doubt!
Whenever I allow myself to dwell on the matter for more than a couple of minutes, and especially when I begin explaining to others all the reasons why she should not do this, I get very upset. Thank God for meditation though, because it is helping me to loosen the grip of fear and glimpse a possible higher purpose in all of this.
When I allow my Higher Self to get a word in, I acknowledge that I cannot see the big picture of this person's life, and what I think I know to be the certain outcome of this "drastic" move may not in fact turn out to be the case. I also remember that this three year old girl is more than a child under the control of her mother's decision. She is also a wise soul who chose this other soul to be her mother in this lifetime. And both of these souls also chose to learn particular lessons – and just maybe this move to Egypt is a necessary part of both their journeys.
I do know that. But my ego doesn't like it, not one little bit. But slowly, my ego and Higher Self are reaching a compromise. I'm hoping that this plan is not destined to manifest, that it is not for the highest good of all, and will in the end come to nothing. (In a nutshell, I'm hoping she will see "sense")
But at the same time, I'm trying to accept that maybe it is for the highest good (no matter what I, or anyone else thinks about it). And if it does come about I hope I will look back on it and be glad that it happened despite my current feelings on the subject. I'm remembering most growth comes from the difficult situations rather than the easy ones. And if we're not growing then there's not much point in our being here.
I'm working with this affirmation by Florence Scovell Shinn:
"I do not resist this situation. I put it in the hands of Infinite Love and Wisdom and let the Divine idea come to pass."
It's from The Game of Life and How to Play it (a gem of a book), and it's helping me to loosen the fearful grip of my ego, and allow my Higher Self to deliver some peace of mind.
What about you? How do you cope when you find yourself in similar situations?