Without knowing where we want to go, it can be hard to get there.
But it can be frustrating as hell to know where you’d like to go and not be able to get there anyway.
From the outside looking in, it might appear that I’m coasting my way through life, with no clear plan. But that’s not the case at all. I do actually have a vision for the kind of life I’d like to be living and I’m doing my best to forge a path in that direction. It’s just that the path isn’t quite unfolding according to my wishes.
It would seem that the universe is conspiring against me.
And when things aren’t working out as I’d like, I could easily allow anxiety to arise. Panic even.
But most days—not all—I don’t go there. Because one of the key lessons I’ve learned over the last decade is that there is no certainty in this life. Eventhough I’ve always sort of known it, it’s truly sunk in now. Much as we’d like to control the events in our lives, ultimately the only thing we can control is how we think and feel about them.
No matter what plans we formulate, or what steps we take, we have no guarantees around how anything will work out. And our lives can be turned upside down—for “better” or “worse”—at any moment in time.
That could be a very depressing thought. Or it could be a liberating one.
It is the way it is and our choice is around how to perceive it.
And so, my way out of frustration and worry—or even despair on the dark days—is to do my best to accept what is. To take a long, deep breath and relax. To trust in my innate ability to cope with whatever unfolds. And to choose to be happy with where I currently am, even if it is nowhere near where I’d rather be. To surrender my plan instead of clinging to it with all my might.