Disclaimer: I don’t believe any book, seminar or teacher can change your life. But I do believe that, if we take the lessons and apply them in our approach to life, then we may indeed experience transformation.
When I first came across this quote, about eight or nine years ago, it blew my mind wide open.
Back then I was making only the most tentative steps towards taking responsibility for my own experiences and making the association between them and my world view.
In the time between then and now, I’ve made considerable progress in that regard—helped a great deal by my meditation practice. But I’m still a million miles away from enlightened and I do get caught up with material struggles. I do sometimes find myself grappling with fear when I perceive a lack in my life.
And all these years later, this quote still helps to bring me back to a more centred and peaceful place.
It’s from Conversations with God—the Be-Do-Have paradigm—I hope you find it helpful:
“Most people believe if they “have” a thing (more time, money, love—whatever), then they can finally “do” a thing (write a book, take up a hobby, go on vacation, buy a home, undertake a relationship), which will allow them to “be” a thing (happy, peaceful, content, or in love). In actuality, they are reversing the Be-Do-Have paradigm. In the universe as it really is (as opposed to how you think it is), “havingness” does not produce “beingness,” but the other way around.
First you “be” the thing called “happy” (or “knowing,” or “wise,” or “compassionate,” or whatever), then you start “doing” things from this place of beingness—and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you’ve always wanted to “have.”
The way to set this creative process (and that’s what this is…the process of creation) into motion is to look at what it is you want to “have,” ask yourself what you think you would “be” if you “had” that, then go right straight to being.
In this way you reverse the way you’ve been using the Be-Do-Have paradigm—in actuality, set it right—and work with, rather than against, the creative power of the universe.” ~ Neale Donald Walshe